Give it time – Potty training tips

That time has come again, potty training! My youngest is now 2 and a half and will be starting nursery after his 3rd birthday; ideally I would like him to be a pro at using the loo before January but this may not be the case. Learning to use the toilet is a big step for a child it should not be rushed.

Most toddlers are ready to use the potty or toilet between 2 and 3 years old. My eldest was 3 when he successfully used the potty and I remember thinking this was late. Many of my friends toddlers were already using a potty so I felt a bit of a failure.  That didn’t last long, I learnt fast that every child is different and that boys can take a little longer than girls to recognise the urge to use the potty. I learnt that its important to let your child learn at their own pace.

Here are some top tips from the Parenting – Give it Time campaign

Top Tips

  • Wait until your child is ready. Your child has to know when they need to go and how to hold on. Most children become interested in using a potty or the toilet on their own. If you wait until your child is ready, toilet training is more likely to go smoothly.
  • Try to work out when your child is ready. Look for these signs: your child knows when they’ve got a wet or dirty nappy; they may tell you they’re passing water, or doing a wee; there is at least an hour between dirty nappies; they know when they need to wee and tell you in advance.
  • Do it when there aren’t too many changes to your child’s life or routine. Avoid times when there is already a lot of stress or change in the family, like moving house or having a new baby.
  • Make things familiar. Put a potty where your child can see it and show them what it’s for. You could let them sit their teddy or doll on it. Let your child see you using the toilet and explain what you’re doing.
  • Make sure they’re comfortable and secure. You can choose to use a potty or the toilet but make sure your child is comfortable and secure. Use an adapted seat and step if your child is using the toilet.
  • Look out for when they fill up their nappy. You might notice that your child has a bowel movement, or poo, at a certain time of the day. You could watch out for signs your child needs to go. They might jiggle, pass wind or hide behind the curtain. Try encouraging your child to go on the potty at this time. Don’t insist on them staying on the toilet or potty until they do something. A few minutes is enough. If they don’t want to go, that’s fine. If they do go, give them lots of praise.
  • Dress for success! Buy your child some pants and put them in clothes that are easy to pull up and down. Trousers or leggings with elastic are great.
  • Expect some accidents and setbacks. Some days your child will be happy using the potty or toilet. On other days they will have lots of accidents. This is normal. Your child might be dry for ages and then go back to having more and more accidents. This may happen if your child is worried about something like going to nursery, moving house or a new baby. Try to be patient and give them time to settle down.
  • Help your child avoid accidents. If your child hasn’t done a wee or a poo for a while, remind them that they might need to go. Children often get very caught up in playing and forget. If they don’t want to go, that’s fine. Try to make sure the potty or toilet is easy to get to and use.
    If it’s all getting too much – stop for a bit and try again in a few weeks. It can take 3-4 weeks for children to become dry. For some children, it can take several months.

*If your child has a long-term illness or is disabled they might find it more difficult to learn to use a potty or toilet. If you are worried there might be a problem ask your health visitor or GP.


What doesn’t work

  • Don’t force your toddler to use the potty or toilet. Your child needs to be physically able to use a potty or toilet. If they’re not ready, you won’t be able to make them use it. If your child sees potty training as a battle of wills with you, it’ll be much harder. When a child feels under pressure it can take them longer to learn.
  • Avoid getting angry or making a fuss when they have an accident. Don’t punish your child for their mistakes. This can make your child feel anxious and worried. It could make the problem worse.
  • Don’t reward using the potty with treats as your child will get used to having a reward every time they use it.

Staying dry at night

  • If your child has a dry nappy regularly in the morning – try letting your child sleep without a nappy:
  • Remind your child to use the toilet before bed.
  • Let your child know that you’ll help them in the night if they wake up needing to go.
    Leave a night-light or potty in their room if they are afraid to get up at night.
  • Protect the mattress with a waterproof cover or pad.
  • It may take a few weeks for your child to learn to stay dry all night. If it’s all getting too much – stop for a bit and try again in another month.
  • Some children are 3-4 years old before they are dry at night. Some children still wet the bed at five or six years old. This is considered normal.Welsh Government Campaign,  Parenting – Give it Time have released a new animation. What do you think?? Were these tips helpful? Please let me know in the comments.

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